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The first Tuesday of each month, we'll be posting TOM'S TUESDAY TAGALONG. Tom will be sharing a blog type message with you.

Here is the November 2022 edition of TOM'S TUESDAY TAGALONG.




“How Do You Want To Be Remembered”


     The other evening, I was watching an interview with Bill and Gloria Gaither. After they had answered many, many questions about their music and the industry they helped create, things got a little serious. The topic changed to their lives and how they wanted to be remembered. After a little consideration, both gave their answers to the question. Their answers actually were a reflection of each of their daily lives and how they lived it. Let’s see what they thought was important in life and the legacy they wanted to leave behind.


     Bill said, “I want to be remembered as a bridge”. You would have thought it would have been more about the 600 or so songs he wrote, or maybe how he made Southern Gospel Music what it is today. That may have been the case 30 years ago when his priorities were different. But as we age and experiences change us, wisdom starts to develop. What seemed to be important back then, has given way to the deeper things in life. Bill wants to be that bridge, which takes his life and the music he loves and changes the lives of others. He said he wanted to be the bridge that allows people to cross over from death to a new life in Jesus, from sorrow to happiness. That’s real desire. Gloria said, “I want people to say she gave herself away for things that last forever. She went on to say that life goes by, and we really don’t know what’s going on. Learn what life is really about and what is truly important in life. Each one of us has a birthday and a death day. We should live every day in between those two dates being fully alive and giving love and hope to others”. Talk about a challenge.


     Christ set the perfect example in that He gave himself for everyone, not just a select few. He didn’t pick and choose to whom He would reach out to with a kind word or deed. Everyone, in His eyes, needed help both physically and spiritually and He freely gave. Even though He was the Son of God, He took on the role of the servant. He spent His entire life helping others and introducing them to His Father in Heaven. It was never about Him, but about the message and spending eternity in Heaven with all who believed on Him. He taught his disciples what mattered in their lives and how to tell His story to the world. He taught them to live their lives in joy and bring peace to the lives of others. Were there sacrifices that came along with their lives? You bet there were, but they were worth it. You have been given several life situations from both human and heavenly experiences. The next question we must ask ourselves is, “How do we want to be remembered?” If you notice, I said we and not you because we all must answer that question. Each of our answers will reflect our individual feelings and what is important in our lives. There are no right or wrong answers, only good or bad. As we look back over our lives, our answers will probably be different and change with time. As our priorities change and our relationship with Christ grows deeper, so do our desires. Age should normally increase our wisdom and that wisdom changes what is and is not important in our lives. We learn it is the spiritual things and not the worldly things that matter the most. Our relationship, as well as that of our family and friends, with Jesus Christ should take precedence over anything. Is it important enough to you to say something to them now, or keep making excuses that you will talk about it later? That’s the question we all must ask ourselves. Unfortunately, some of us never learn from our mistakes. As time passes, complacency sets in, and we find ourselves stuck in that proverbial rut. What rut are you talking about you say? It’s the one where we are content to be saved, but not really concerned about anyone else. Do we ever ask ourselves why we can find time to go to the covered dish suppers at church, but not go visit a shut-in or even invite someone to our church? It always comes down to our priorities and how much we really care about others. How much time does it take to pick up the phone and call someone that we know is having problems? You may be the only one willing to show someone you care about them. These questions, we must answer honestly, if we want to change the way we feel, think and act. No one else can do that for you. As we travel around, singing in all sizes and denominations of churches, there is one common denominator that jumps out at us. That “one thing” is that most people in attendance are approximately 55 years and older. Out of that group, the majority are approximately 65 years and older. If this trend isn’t turned around, some of those churches won’t be around in 20 years. Did you ever ask yourself why that is? Have you ever thought what you could do to help with the problem? Why aren’t there younger families coming to learn more about Jesus and how He changes lives? Maybe one of those families is your sons, daughters and/or your grandchildren. Maybe it’s what others see in our lives that doesn’t really entice them to learn what life is really about. If we aren’t willing to change some things in or lives for the better, why should we expect them to? I know this has gotten pretty heavy and hopefully makes each one of us do some real soul searching, myself included. As Jesus said, “Time is short, and the harvest is plentiful.” I challenge you to pick one person and faithfully lift them up in prayer daily. You may not see an immediate change in their life, but I assure you that you will feel a change in your life. Don’t worry, the Lord will be doing His part as well. This challenge doesn’t take a lot of time on our part but it sure takes a lot of love.


     So, getting back to the original question, “What one word do you want to be remembered as?” We may not quite be there yet, but with the love and help of God our goal may someday be reached. Now I know some of you are saying, “Tom, what one word do you want to be remembered as?” I’ll make you a deal. You come to one of our upcoming concerts and I’ll tell you.


     Until next month, have a Happy Thanksgiving and share it with someone who may be not as blessed as you.


God Bless,